“Standing In Your Power…….”
As the journey continues, sometimes I marvel at the time it takes me to understand things.
But when the penny drops and I finally ‘get it’ a little smile creeps across my face.
For those of you who have followed my journey, you will know a big part of it has been about learning how to stand in my power.
Standing in your power is related to the Solar Plexus chakra, and for me when I go against what it is authentically me – I feel pain just under the rib cage, right in the upper part of my tummy – exactly where the Solar Plexus Chakra is.
The journey we are all on is one of self-discovery.
What does it mean to stand in your power?
I thought it was all about flexing one’s authority, getting what you want, and being assertive.
Powerful people were quite scary people. Loud people. Controlling people.
I felt that to be powerful I had to showcase these qualities.
Now, remember we all look at things differently and the important people in our lives, and who we grow up with, people we have partnerships with – are all here to teach us lessons.
I could look at something completely different from how you look at something and there’s no right or wrong, it’s all perception.
So whether it rings true for you is inconsequential – I am merely showing you, teaching you that what we see and perceive isn’t necessarily the truth or the way.
So, I’ve always battled with being powerful as I believed, that to be powerful you had to be aggressive or angry and it just didn’t feel right to me.
And when something doesn’t feel right – it usually isn’t.
I have spent a good seven years working on this one aspect of myself and in one sentence a couple of days ago, my psychologist changed my view completely – just one sentence.
I woke up the other morning feeling terrible.
I went and got a coffee from the local coffee shop and LOLA by the Kinks was playing.
I texted my psychologist Shane to tell him, (another story) and he said:
“Have you ever listened to the lyrics of that song, it was very controversial”.
The day wore on, I didn’t google the lyrics, just rode out the day.
The following day I gave Shane a ring to have a chat.
We chatted about the lyrics of LOLA, and how it was all about someone standing in their authentic truth, standing in their power and at the end of our conversation, he simply said this,
“Rachael, what you are going through now is teaching you how to stand in your power.
And standing in your power doesn’t mean there’s a little square over there, and when you go and stand in it you are standing in your power.
No, it comes from within and it simply means to be yourself.
Your true, authentic self.
That’s what it means to stand in your power”
There was nothing about assertiveness, aggression, or control – it was all about simply being true to yourself, just as Lola was.
Go on, stand in your power, I dare you!